|Sammie and Friends|
In all my days in church, I have never heard about how to handle grief. People say he/she has finished the race. People also say, "our prayers are with you." The most I have experienced is the comfort the Holy Spirit gives. The Word and prayer never cease to deliver warmth and the embrace of the Father.
|Late Prof Ogbomo, Late Sammie, Molly, Myself, and Efosa in Chicago|
I have had to find time and place to weep and ball over the loss of loved ones.
|Flint Benefit Concert with RCCG Michigan|
I have been pulling up pictures and recordings.
"All loss is loss."
Some people try to minimize their loss by ignoring their feelings or self-medicating. Some others downplay grief.
Some say, "It's not a big deal; you'll be fine." or "You should be over that by now." These statements are not helpful and, on the contrary, are pretty hurtful. Most people know the feeling of grief, and if they don't remember now, one day, they will. Jesus foretold that we would suffer in this world. He didn't say we might suffer; he said that we will.
"I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace. You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world." (John 16:33)
|Mission to Flint, Michigan, with Sammie, Pastor Mayowa, Myself, and the girls.|
What Jesus offers is a solution to coping with the grief we experience. No matter where we are in the stages of grief, keeping our connection with God alive is vital. Jesus conquered the world and believes we can do the same.
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Journaling is very helpful. I have been writing for the past many days. This can become part of your daily routine where you jot down your thoughts on the subject, or it could be a supplement to processing by yourself.
Tapping into your creativity. You may consider a creative outlet. This could look like arts and crafts, — the possibilities are endless. It can be an intentional way to channel your energy or a positive way to put your mind elsewhere.
|Result of journaling since Sammie left for heaven|
Talking things out. The WhatsApp group of Sammie's friends has been a mecca for comfort and healing. When you're ready, consider talking with friends about the good parts of what you've lost or the hard parts of what you're dealing with.
No matter what our intense experiences of grief may be, they are temporary. There is life after grief—if we acknowledge and work through our reactions rather than trying to stop them.
But healthy grieving is an active process; it is not true that "You just need to give it time."
To acknowledge and express the full range of feelings we experience as a result of the loss;
To adjust to a life in which the lost person, object, or experience is absent.
If we could control every circumstance in life, there would be no need for God. There is very little we can control. If we are in a season of grief, more than likely, we did not choose to be in this season.
Letting go and letting God can be very difficult. When we do, the reward is peace of mind (Philippians 4:7).
This song (Let Go, Let God by Dwayne Woods) by is a reminder that no matter our degree of suffering, God hears, and he will rescue us.
I have been listening to all the songs #SammieOkposo wrote and trying to hear his heart.
Farewell brother #SammieOkposo #instagram #instagood #instablog #instablogger #instablog9ja
|To be continued...|
Medical Missionary @ www.hhands.org
Author of Emptied Cup. The book is a collection of inspiring stories of God's faithfulness in the mission field.
Uvoh is a member of Christian Union Uniben alumni in the United States. He serves as Director of Healing Hands Health Society a faith-based organization with the commission of spreading Christ's love through medical care to all people worldwide.
He has worked as a General Dentist/ Missionary for over twenty years, offering dental services across various communities around the African continent and other parts of the globe. He has had the opportunity to train in various tertiary organizations in the United States.
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